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Fabulous Read: Why I Don’t Love My Children More Than My Husband

My better half…

After a two month hiatus – JENNY AND I ARE BACK!  Sorry kids, life got in the way for awhile and other things took priority, but don’t worry, we never stopped thinking about you.

So why am I writing today of all days?

I just read an absolutely fabulous article on Babble.com titled, “Why I Don’t Love My Children More Than My Husband“.  At 25 weeks pregnant I find myself thinking more and more about what kind of parents we will be and all the new – yet very exciting – challenges we will be facing.  But one thing I have never questioned is that I know my husband will always come first.  He has to.  And I have to come first for him.

Our relationship is the foundation of this family we are building.  If we aren’t strong, the family won’t be strong.  As selfish as it sounds, we must make each other a priority.  Whatever that takes at the time – maybe sometimes ten minutes alone is all it will be, maybe it will be a date night, maybe there will be times when we need an actual vacation (sans munchkin-to-be).

And like the article, hubby and I have been at rock bottom.  But hitting rock bottom and working our way back up made us stronger.  We love each other more today than the day before and the day before that… Everyday we choose one another.  We choose to trust in one another, to confide in one another, to support one another.  I am his biggest cheerleader and he is mine.

As much as I don’t doubt that he must always come first, I also don’t doubt that we have the biggest challenge of our lives ahead of us in raising this little one – but no matter the challenge, we have one another.  That is all that matters.  Together we can make it through anything.

(cue cheesy romance movie music)

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A whole lot of nothing… and it was amazing.

When there is a moment of nothingness in today’s world of being scheduled to the hilt, obligations galore and feeling pressured with everything that “must” get done… it can be terrifying or absolutely amazing.

Over the weekend I had many (many!) things I could do or wanted to check off the “back burner” list, but ultimately there was nothing that was time critical, needed to get done, or was breathing down my neck.  Hubby was in the same boat.  We each had things we could do, but ultimately we tossed most of the to-do’s out the window.

We did a whole lot of nothing.  It was a-m-a-z-i-n-g.

We ran errands (so yes, we were somewhat productive), talked about our future, enjoyed a good friend’s birthday and, most importantly, enjoyed each other’s company.  It was the best weekend I have had in I can’t remember how long…

I have to admit, throughout the entire weekend I was worried I would wake up on Monday morning and kick myself for not taking the time to tackle X, Y or Z.  But you know what?  I didn’t.  I woke up with a smile on my face because I had an extraordinary weekend enjoying the company of my husband and doing a whole lot of nothing.

I guess the point I’d like to make is this – when the “do nothing with the one(s) you love” opportunity presents itself … take it.  You may hear a voice in the back of your head saying “you could organize your bathroom cupboards”.  Ignore it.  In today’s world we don’t get many “nothing” moments.  Treasure them.  They are pretty awesome to reflect on.  🙂

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Showing love on V-day and the remaining 364 days of the year…

Instant Chocolate cake recipe in a Valentine's day mug

Instant Chocolate Cake Recipe in a Valentine's Day Mug

“They” always say the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. However, I’m hoping I’ve already paved a clear path to my hubby’s heart as three years ago today he proposed to me in the most perfect way – with a Valentine heart-shaped ring from atop a deliciously sweet cupcake.

Regardless of already winning over each others’ hearts, it’s important – Valentine’s Day or not – to make sure we continue to demonstrate our love. Married folk can all agree … it’s not always easy. But, I’m here to say just because it’s not always easy doesn’t mean you have to overthink it either. An expression of love doesn’t have to come with a hefty price tag or elaborate plan (although I won’t turn away a sparkly surprise if given one!) Ultimately it’s the little things that count … and those little things can add up wonderfully – like leaving a sweet note where and/or when your significant other would least expect it. Or even sharing the thoughts in your head … if he/she looks good, tell them! Compliments, sweet notes and/or gestures can go a long way to remind the special person in your life that they still light your fire after so many years.

However you choose to express your love to your partner is ultimately up to you and your style. The important part is that you do something no matter how busy, how tired or how stressed. Stop making excuses and make the time!

And, if the love of your life has a sweet tooth just like mine, here’s a last minute, quick and easy way to warm their heart … literally.

Instant chocolate cake*

1. Whisk 1/4 cup flour, 5 tbsp sugar, 2 tbsp cocoa powder, 1 egg, 3 tbsp milk, 3 tbsp vegetable oil and a dash of vanilla extract and salt in a large mug until smooth. Optional – I used a Valentine’s day themed mug I purchased from Target. The inside bottom of the mug says “I love you” (now cue the awww’s..)

2. Microwave until puffed about 2 mins. Sprinkle w/ more cocoa powder and serve up the warm chocolatey goodness to your sweetie tomorrow!

Just a few helpful sides notes…

• I’ve found a spoon works better to mix up the ingredients… either the mug wasn’t big enough or my whisk wasn’t small

• The mug is hot… really hot, so be careful!

• This recipe is good, but the addition of a fudge or other sweet topping would make it even better!

* This recipe was found in Food Network Magazine, April 2011

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