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Are you happy? If not, do you want to be?

I actually had another blog piece written to post today, but for some reason I didn’t feel now was the right time to post it.  So that post is officially shelved for now.

Now what to write about?  Well, as I sat on my couch watching the season premiere of Design Star, I decided to hop on the computer and peruse Pinterest.  Because that is what we do now that Pinterest exists…

I open up Pinterest and the first thing I see is the picture to the right.  Man, it struck a chord.

I feel that we are a society of complainers and the complaining is only increasing in magnitude.  Does everyone expect happiness and their idea of a “perfect life” to be handed to them?  Or are they actually willing to work for it?  Our grandparents did… they worked DAMN hard to have the life they imagined for themselves, their children and their grandchildren.  This is why they are the greatest generation – they did not work hard for just themselves, they worked hard for the kids and grandkids that they didn’t even have yet.  Can anyone say the same about us?  Nope, sure can’t.  We are focused on the here, the now and the next handout.  Some people blame our dependance on technology, some people blame the generation before us and starting us down this path, some people just blame the closest target.  But no one is really at fault except ourselves.

I am not a fan of generalities, and I realize I am using them in this post… I know there are exceptions, as I feel I personally am one.  That doesn’t mean I don’t complain – I am human, I complain.  But I don’t expect what I want to be handed to me on a silver platter.  I understand that if I want it, I have to work for it.

I think we all need to realize that if we want to be truly happy – deep down in our cores – we have to work for what we want.  Handouts don’t provide satisfaction, working provides satisfaction.

So ask yourself… are you happy?  If not, do you want to be?  And most importantly, are you willing to work for it?

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Can I truly “unplug”?

Not me... or my vacation spot. But my vacation is just as awesome as this picture looks.

I am currently on vacation…and thanks to much prep work and a great trip, I have actually been able to “unplug” more than I have on other vacations in the last few years.  (Hence my lack of blog post last week…but don’t worry, you are getting two posts from me this week, just in case you missed me. 🙂 )

There is still work that has to be done, but I am pretty proud of myself and the fact that I have been able get done what I have gotten done and then go right back into vacation mode.

But I truly wonder, in today’s society of constant contact and ability to be reached at anytime and anywhere – can we truly unplug?

We set the expectations in our lives, and for many of us, we have set the expectation that we are all available – all the time.  Any time, any place, no matter what we are doing, no matter who we are with.  Whether for family, friends or work – we are always “on”.

I think we all strive to find a good balance in life and having a great trip where a glimmer of “unplugging” has been shown to me has taught me that it is possible to have a fulfilling day without checking facebook, replying to too many emails (but yes, I did check them daily) or having my phone glued to me all day.

Now that I my eyes have been opened to this, I plan to continue down this path… What do you do to find a good balance or “unplug”?

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A whole lot of nothing… and it was amazing.

When there is a moment of nothingness in today’s world of being scheduled to the hilt, obligations galore and feeling pressured with everything that “must” get done… it can be terrifying or absolutely amazing.

Over the weekend I had many (many!) things I could do or wanted to check off the “back burner” list, but ultimately there was nothing that was time critical, needed to get done, or was breathing down my neck.  Hubby was in the same boat.  We each had things we could do, but ultimately we tossed most of the to-do’s out the window.

We did a whole lot of nothing.  It was a-m-a-z-i-n-g.

We ran errands (so yes, we were somewhat productive), talked about our future, enjoyed a good friend’s birthday and, most importantly, enjoyed each other’s company.  It was the best weekend I have had in I can’t remember how long…

I have to admit, throughout the entire weekend I was worried I would wake up on Monday morning and kick myself for not taking the time to tackle X, Y or Z.  But you know what?  I didn’t.  I woke up with a smile on my face because I had an extraordinary weekend enjoying the company of my husband and doing a whole lot of nothing.

I guess the point I’d like to make is this – when the “do nothing with the one(s) you love” opportunity presents itself … take it.  You may hear a voice in the back of your head saying “you could organize your bathroom cupboards”.  Ignore it.  In today’s world we don’t get many “nothing” moments.  Treasure them.  They are pretty awesome to reflect on.  🙂

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Appreciating Every Minute…

In the last two weeks, both Jenny’s husband and my husband have lost their last grandparent.  Needless to say, we both have had some serious gut checks about appreciating those in our lives.

Throughout my life there have been a few very good family & friends that have left us unexpectedly and it has always made me very aware that we never know when our number… or the number of those closest to us, is going to be called.

It sounds so cheesy when you hear people say that you should “appreciate every minute”, but damn it, it is so true.  You never know when the one you love so dearly is no longer going to be there.

Hubby and I were chatting about how it isn’t necessarily the loss of the person… it is the void left where they used to reside in your life.  That person is no longer there to share with, to laugh with, to call… that place is now empty.  That emptiness is the hardest (in my opinion).

So, the basic point of all this is, as cheesy as it sounds – appreciate every minute with your loved ones.  You never know how long you have with them.  It could be one more day, it could be 50 more years, but do you want to take that gamble that you rushed off the phone with your (insert loved one here) and that was the last conversation you had with them?

Life is too short to get wrapped up in the small stuff, so make sure to open up your heart, love, laugh and enjoy those dearest to you.

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