Monthly Archives: May 2012

Are you happy? If not, do you want to be?

I actually had another blog piece written to post today, but for some reason I didn’t feel now was the right time to post it.  So that post is officially shelved for now.

Now what to write about?  Well, as I sat on my couch watching the season premiere of Design Star, I decided to hop on the computer and peruse Pinterest.  Because that is what we do now that Pinterest exists…

I open up Pinterest and the first thing I see is the picture to the right.  Man, it struck a chord.

I feel that we are a society of complainers and the complaining is only increasing in magnitude.  Does everyone expect happiness and their idea of a “perfect life” to be handed to them?  Or are they actually willing to work for it?  Our grandparents did… they worked DAMN hard to have the life they imagined for themselves, their children and their grandchildren.  This is why they are the greatest generation – they did not work hard for just themselves, they worked hard for the kids and grandkids that they didn’t even have yet.  Can anyone say the same about us?  Nope, sure can’t.  We are focused on the here, the now and the next handout.  Some people blame our dependance on technology, some people blame the generation before us and starting us down this path, some people just blame the closest target.  But no one is really at fault except ourselves.

I am not a fan of generalities, and I realize I am using them in this post… I know there are exceptions, as I feel I personally am one.  That doesn’t mean I don’t complain – I am human, I complain.  But I don’t expect what I want to be handed to me on a silver platter.  I understand that if I want it, I have to work for it.

I think we all need to realize that if we want to be truly happy – deep down in our cores – we have to work for what we want.  Handouts don’t provide satisfaction, working provides satisfaction.

So ask yourself… are you happy?  If not, do you want to be?  And most importantly, are you willing to work for it?

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Step Outside of Your Comfort Zone …

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Hello friends! As Audra mentioned, we’re back! It was a crazy spring for me with all my preparation for and then actually being out the country for five weeks, but I’m back and finally settled into my usual routine again. There’s definitely no place like home – and having a steady schedule and routine again feels good.

BUT …

To put it simply, my time Down Under was absolutely amazing. The Rotary Group Study Exchange to Australia I participated in was a spectacular opportunity to step outside of my comfort zone personally and professionally. I didn’t know who I was going to meet, where I was going to go, what I would learn, what I would miss back home, etc. etc. I had to let go of the steering wheel and go with the flow. Initially, I thought it would be fairly easy and I’d have no issues whatsoever. I was wrong, but that’s okay. The payoff for the mix of sadness, sickness, exhaustion, excitement, anxiety, laughter, sometimes awkward moments, and sleepless nights was worth it. I’m now more confident in all facets of my life. Work life is great – I’ve been able to apply so much of my experiences vocationally and culturally into my daily design doings. Personally, things are spectacular too. While my time away from my hubby wasn’t needed, it sparked another level of appreciation and love for one another.

Ultimately, I’ve been inspired in so many ways…

  • to travel and see/do even more new things (next time with my husband)
  • to speak and present more confidently
  • to be even more globally in-tune with news, events, issues and more
  • to give back more to my family, friends, colleagues and community
  • to take a chance … especially if I’m nervous or afraid

I love the fact that I have developed so many wonderful professional connections and life-long personal relationships and friends on the other side of the world.

All that being shared, I challenge each of you to take a step – however big or small you can manage – outside of your comfort zone. I’m not suggesting everyone needs to skip town for 5 weeks and head to Australia by any means (although its a beautiful country). Just make an attempt to mix things up a bit. Take a chance. The reward(s) will be worth it in the end.

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Fabulous Read: Why I Don’t Love My Children More Than My Husband

My better half…

After a two month hiatus – JENNY AND I ARE BACK!  Sorry kids, life got in the way for awhile and other things took priority, but don’t worry, we never stopped thinking about you.

So why am I writing today of all days?

I just read an absolutely fabulous article on Babble.com titled, “Why I Don’t Love My Children More Than My Husband“.  At 25 weeks pregnant I find myself thinking more and more about what kind of parents we will be and all the new – yet very exciting – challenges we will be facing.  But one thing I have never questioned is that I know my husband will always come first.  He has to.  And I have to come first for him.

Our relationship is the foundation of this family we are building.  If we aren’t strong, the family won’t be strong.  As selfish as it sounds, we must make each other a priority.  Whatever that takes at the time – maybe sometimes ten minutes alone is all it will be, maybe it will be a date night, maybe there will be times when we need an actual vacation (sans munchkin-to-be).

And like the article, hubby and I have been at rock bottom.  But hitting rock bottom and working our way back up made us stronger.  We love each other more today than the day before and the day before that… Everyday we choose one another.  We choose to trust in one another, to confide in one another, to support one another.  I am his biggest cheerleader and he is mine.

As much as I don’t doubt that he must always come first, I also don’t doubt that we have the biggest challenge of our lives ahead of us in raising this little one – but no matter the challenge, we have one another.  That is all that matters.  Together we can make it through anything.

(cue cheesy romance movie music)

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