Monthly Archives: December 2011

Home Decoration … the never-ending process

I find an insane amount of inspiration from paging through the Pottery Barn catalog. I also have a strange fascination with looking into others’ homes as I drive by. (Hey, don’t judge … I know I’m not the only one!) At the end of the day, it comes down to the uniqueness of it all. Regardless, I’ve determined that decorating one’s home and making it your own is a never-ending process. You either get sick of what you have or you never had it from the start.

Well, there’s a lot I’ve never had … even after living in our new home for coming up on THREE years (crazy how time flies). I’ve had my challenges — a major one being defining the style and tone of the house that we (my husband & I) want to portray. When discussing the build of our home with others, we often say we put “country” and “contemporary” in a can, shook it up and poured it out to achieve our current look. Even so, we still both have different opinions on the accents we add. Fortunately, I’ve found success in combining the old, antiquish (if that’s not a word, I’m making it one) with modern touches. It’s worked for us, but in moderation of course. Balance is key. No matter what my excuse — spousal style differences, time, the expense, uncertainty, wanting to do it right the first time, etc., I’m super excited about one of my recent additions.

Here's the final look. Just keep it simple.

While this scale filled with green, earthy goodness isn’t utilized for its orginal purpose any more, the look and story behind it all makes it all worth it. (Just a fyi from the very beginning here – I’m obsessed with the color green!) Long story short, this scale has been a part of my husband’s family for decades. Initially, I loved the look of it, but wasn’t sure how to incorporate it into our decor. My husband was persistent and we ended up placing  the food scale appropriately near the kitchen. I started out filling it with scented pine cones from the holiday season, but stumbled upon the decorative green vase filler balls that I had stashed away as a happy accident. From that point on, the scale tray has been their permanent residence and I get nothing but complements on it. Maybe next Christmas, I’ll add some festive decor to mix it up.

The lesson here … don’t overlook those little things that you don’t know what to do with – especially if there is some history or a personal story behind it. And don’t be afraid to experiment with the addition of a few random components to make it unique to you. The end result may surprise you as this scale accent did for me.

To be or not to be … a drama queen

Everyone knows someone who is — or can be the princess of provocation.  We must all admit … we can even be one our self at times. We’ve all been in the scenarios — do we give in and passive aggressively rant via a Facebook post or send that cruel, in-the-moment text message that we regret down the road. Ultimately, everyone has that choice to make — to be or not to be a drama queen.

I usually despise conflict and do my best to avoid starting or participating in any fights or other conflict-ridden situations. Unfortunately lately, I’ve surprised myself with how angry and worked up I can make myself simply by focusing on the stories I’ve “told” myself. Fortunately, at this point in time I’ve been able to contain this drama to my head … and my head alone. After lots and lots of sighing and many restless nights, I’ve finally gotten to the point of asking myself, “am I getting worked up for nothing?”

When I really stop and think about it, it’s amazing, as humans — and women — how much we assume, perceive, or think we know! We often dwell on stories or situations that might not even be entirely true — and once we’ve held enough in, we let it out. We steam, we yell, we cry. Only to realize it was a simple misunderstanding or difference in expectations.

In an effort to focus on the brighter side of life and reduce a significant amount of stress from my daily life, I’m determined to do the following — and encourage you to do the same the next time you find yourself dwelling on a stressful scenario or relationship between family, friends, co-workers, etc.

1. Stop & think. Truly spend some time reflecting on the situation at hand. It will give you a chance to cool down and help you establish your real feelings in the matter.

2. Give the benefit of the doubt. Instead of making up my own story or idea as to why he/she said or did something, assume the other party in the conflict had good intent with no intent to harm.

3. Use your big girl words. If I can’t let it go after that, TALK to them in a open and calm fashion. Explain why you are hurt, mad and/or frustrated … without blaming or pointing fingers. Ask for their side of the story and actually LISTEN to them.  Key word: listen.

Talking these steps won’t guarantee a solid resolution right away all of the time … but you are definitely headed in the right direction. It’s amazing what solid, successful communication can lead to! If you need more guidance, I’d highly recommend the book, Crucial Conversations, by Patterson, Grenny, McMillan and Switzler. Best of luck!

Those Damned Resolutions

Or maybe this is why I don’t make resolutions...

Well, it is that time of year again…everyone is talking about their New Year’s Resolutions.  People want to lose weight, eat healthier, get fit, drink less, quit smoking, get out of debt.  All things that they can honestly do any time of the year.  I think everyone who makes resolutions knows that starting them on this one particular day doesn’t mean that they will be successful, but it is the idea of a new year – a new chance, an opportunity for change.  A glimmer of hope.

Way back in the day I was a Weight Watchers devotee.  I always knew that for the first month or so of the new year you would need to come extra early to get weighed in because the line was out the door with all the new people signing up and weighing in.  And then, around the end of January / early February, the group would go back to the “pre-New Year” group.  In a way, you always felt bad – you still held that glimmer of hope for them when they had lost theirs.

For many reasons, I’ve decided not to make New Year’s Resolutions.  If I am going to make a change, I am not going to wait for a specific day to do it.  That being said, I have a challenge for all those who are making resolutions.  Don’t give up.  If your resolution doesn’t get traction in the first few weeks or months, don’t give up.  Stick with it, even if it means reevaluating your goal and your path to get there and try again.  You can make a change any day, don’t pin it all on January 1st.  It is just a day.  No more, no less.

“Always bear in mind that your own resolution to succeed is more important than any other.”
– Abraham Lincoln

Sharing way too much, dancing way too little…

Hello!

Welcome to very beginning of our creative endeavor – the Rooted Spoons blog! Our goal for these genuine, funny, enlightening, and even embarrassing blog posts is to share our stories, in likely way too much detail, in order to help us all reflect on the good, the bad and much, much more in hopes we all become stronger, smarter, happier women.

We are notorious for the following conversation:
Audra: “We need to go to do something fun…”
Jenny: “We should go dancing!”

But inevitably we get too busy, too distracted or what not and it never happens.  But we always have the best of intentions…

But really, we do dance!  In our cars while singing to our new favorite song, in our kitchens while cooking for our families (or in Audra’s case, watching her hubby cook), in our offices for a job well done, and really anywhere random … where ever and when ever the moment strikes. At the end of the day, it makes us happy … so why don’t we do it more?

Our goal is to share way too much but change the dancing way too little!  We will dance for the happy times, for the times we’re overcome by the bad, and for the days we just don’t know what else to do!  There may be a YouTube video of this in the future…but alcohol will probably be necessary.  So stay tuned on that…

So buckle up and enjoy the ride!  We are not sure where we are heading, but know we will be dancing along the way…